In my last blog post, I wrote about CU Buffaloes coach Mel Tucker, who left after one season to take a huge job coaching Michigan State. I asked, “Was Tucker’s move honorable?” I’ve since had even more conversations with friends and family about this question. Mostly, people deflect from actually answering the question about honor. It’s too hard for us to judge others as dishonorable if we might act in the same way. Instead they say, “Everyone would do that… YOU’d do that.” Maybe I would have, maybe not – I honestly don’t know.
I do know that NOT EVERYONE would do that.
I have a good friend who DIDN’T. He turned down an opportunity with massive and guaranteed financial upside because if he took it, his decision would have negative impacts on those to whom he’d made promises which he’d have to abandon. I wish I could tell you the specifics. I’d like to name him here. I’ll tell him personally that I this is about him – and that I appreciate his honor.